I matched with someone on a dating app and I want to send a first message (or reply to theirs) that actually gets a conversation going. Not 'hey :)'
APP: {Hinge / Tinder / Bumble / etc.}
WHO REACHED OUT FIRST: {me / them}
THEIR OPENING MESSAGE (if they sent one): {paste}
THEIR PROFILE SUMMARY — what stands out (real specifics, not 'they're cute'): {3-5_things}
A PROMPT OR PHOTO of theirs you actually noticed: {specific_detail}
MY VIBE: {dry_humor / earnest / curious / flirty / chill}
WHAT I WANT from the conversation: {a_real_date / casual_chat / depends_on_them}
WHAT KILLS my past first messages: {too_short / too_long / too_eager / 'hey'}
AGE / LIFE STAGE for both of us: {context}
DRAFT 3 OPTIONS:
1. **Short + specific** — 1-2 lines, references a real detail of theirs.
2. **Question that opens a real conversation** — not 'how was your day' (everyone gets this).
3. **Playful / lightly funny** — when their profile gives you something to riff on.
FOR EACH, INCLUDE:
- Why it works
- What KIND of person responds to this style (not everyone will)
- A follow-up message to send if they reply but the conversation stalls in 3 exchanges
RULES:
- Reference something SPECIFIC from their profile. Generic openers signal generic effort.
- Don't compliment looks (everyone does this; it's noise).
- Don't ask 'how's your day' / 'what do you do' / 'where are you from' as the opener.
- Pose ONE question, not three.
- Sound like a person, not a salesperson.
- Under 200 characters when possible.0 copies·0 saves·2 views
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Sample output
App: Hinge. Me reached out. Their profile: photos of them rock climbing + at a record store + with a small dog; Hinge prompt 'My most controversial opinion: hotels are better than airbnbs.' Mid-30s, lives in Brooklyn. My vibe: dry humor, mid-30s. Want: a real date. Past failure: I default to 'hey, your dog is cute' which dies.
Option 1 — Short & specific:
'Your hot take on hotels is the right one. The 'authentic local experience' is usually a former dentist's spare bedroom.'
Why it works: picks up on a SPECIFIC opinion from their profile, agrees in a way that adds something (not just 'I agree'), and is short enough to invite a reply. Dry-humor matches dry-humor.
Kind of person who responds: someone whose Hinge prompt was a genuine take, not a placeholder. If their prompt was a stand-in for 'I had to write something,' this might fall flat. That's information.
Follow-up if conversation stalls in 3 exchanges: 'OK harder question: best hotel you've stayed in that was actually worth the upgrade?'
Option 2 — Real-conversation question:
'Climbing or record store first if you had a free Saturday — and why?'
Parameters
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FAQ
Pick which option to send based on THEIR profile's tone, not your favorite. Dry-humor opener to a chatty/earnest profile = mismatch. Match their energy first; let your personality come through in the follow-ups. The prompt targets Claude Sonnet and lives in the Writing & Content category on mycopyprompt.
This prompt is written for Claude Sonnet. It's a text/chat prompt — paste it into Claude Sonnet (or compatible LLMs like Claude or GPT-4) to get the expected output.
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See the "Sample output" panel above — that's a real example of what Claude Sonnet returns when this prompt runs. Your output will vary in wording but should follow the same structure and depth.
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Matched against every prompt in the catalog by title.
Why it works: picks two specific things from their profile, makes them choose, asks why. The 'why' is what turns it from a yes/no question into a conversation.
Kind of person who responds: anyone who likes telling small stories about their own preferences. Doesn't filter on personality, but it filters on engagement — people who reply with 'climbing' alone are different from people who reply with 'climbing — there's a route at the Gunks I keep coming back to even though I always fall off the same crux.'
Follow-up if stalls in 3 exchanges: 'OK now I have to ask — what was the last record you bought that you actually listened to more than once?'
Option 3 — Playful riff:
'Just want to confirm before this goes anywhere — is the dog the senior partner, and you're the junior associate?'
Why it works: picks up on the dog photo, light teasing, doesn't compliment them (which is the trap). Treats the dog like a real character in their life.
Kind of person who responds: someone who has a sense of humor about their pet AND who isn't put off by a stranger gently teasing them on day 1. Great filter — if they're delighted, you have great vibe match. If they're cool about it, also fine. If they bristle, you weren't compatible.
Follow-up if stalls in 3 exchanges: 'Real question though — what's the dog's name? I need to know who I'm dealing with.'
Universal rules I followed in all 3:
When 'no reply' is information, not failure:
If you send one of these and get nothing in 48 hours, the match wasn't going to lead anywhere even if you'd written a 5-paragraph essay. Don't double-text. Don't send a 'just checking in.' Move on. The reply rate to specific, low-eagerness opening messages is about 40-60% on Hinge for most people — high enough that no reply almost always means 'we weren't going to click' and not 'I should have written something better.'